Dealing With Perimenopause: 
Will I EVER be able to lose weight NORMALLY again?

Are you dealing with perimenopause or is it kicking your butt and taking your down?

Are you in denial?

Are you still trying to manage yourself like you were when you were in your 20’s and 30’s and frustrated at the lack of progress?

I describe dealing with perimenopause to my clients by relating it to “The Perfect Storm”.   It’s just like the movie when all of the possible worse scenarios collide to cause a cascade of internal, emotional and physical chaos which send women looking at themselves wondering “what the hell happened to me?”


They come in to my studio and say “In my 30’s I would just have to cut back and I could lose the weight.  But now no matter what I do I can’t get the weight to come off.”


Then couple the confusion about why their bodies are not responding to normal attempts at weight loss with a doctor that just tells them to eat less and exercise more and you have a woman that is FRUSTRATED, ANGRY and RESENTFUL.


Look…..a perimenopausal woman can gain 4-5 lbs. in a weekend.


A perimenopausal woman can cry at the drop of a hat and be completely lose it if you took the hairdryer from her bathroom and didn’t put it back.


A perimenopausal woman goes to bed exhausted and wakes up even more tired and may not want to talk to you until she has had AT LEAST one cup of coffee.


A perimenopausal woman loses her sex drive and often can care less if they participate in the act once a month or ever again.

A perimenopausal woman can't get rid of belly fat.


If this sounds ANYTHING like you I can tell you that YOU ARE NOT DEALING WITH PERIMENOPAUSE……..




Most of my clients are in this stage of life and they remind me of Humpty Dumpty who fell off the wall and is all broken into a million pieces.  (No…..I’m saying they are SHAPED like Humpty Dumpty at all…….although many of clients say they DO look like Humpty Dumpty….but I digress).


Many of them have at least 3 of these issues:

  • Inability to sleep
  • Lack of motivation
  • Lack of sex drive
  • Irregular periods
  • Weight Gain
  • Digestive Issues
  • Inability to lose weight
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling of gloom and doom
  • Feelings of worthlessness
  • Feeling out of control
  • Musculo-skeletal issues
  • Upper back pain/neck pain
  • Can't get rid of belly fat
  • Lower Back Pain
  • Fatigue in the mid-afternoon
  • Inability to wake up in the morning
  • Intense sugar/carb cravings
  • Migraines
  • AND MORE…………


I can go on and on and on.  But seriously….most women have AT LEAST 3 of these symptoms.


And what is worse… that they think THIS IS NORMAL.

Well let me help you understand that these symptoms are not NORMAL but they are ALL TOO COMMON.


This is the way I describe dealing with perimenopause. 


During this time so many physical situations come to a head --- ALL AT ONCE which can hit a woman so hard they feel like they were hit by a bus and now have no familiarity with their body after the accident.  Nothing is the same as it used to be.  But they REMEMBER who they used to be and they are trying to fix the problem with a body they had BEFORE they were hit by the bus. 


And the formula DOES NOT WORK.


Sounds  a bit like the definition of INSANITY doesn’t it?  Doing the same thing again and again expecting a different result??


So STOP!!!! 


Stop the madness and learn to ACCEPT that your body is now different but you DON’T HAVE TO ACCEPT ALL THE SYMPTOMS THAT COME ALONG WITH IT. 



This is what I have found to be common amongst my clients after we have done a full workup including a blood chemistry analysis, cortisol test, etc.


  • Low adrenal function
  • Low thyroid function
  • Autoimmune diseases such as Hashimoto’s
  • Low Vitamin D and Low Iron
  • Blood Sugar dysregulation (chronically high blood sugar or too low blood sugar)
  • Gut dysfunction, SIBO (small intestinal bacterial overgrowth)
  • Hormone imbalances (mostly low progesterone, low testosterone, low DHEA)


Think of it this way.  You buy a new car and you bring it in for your oil changes, tune ups, replace needed spark plugs, replace fluids that are low, change the brakes, get new tires, get new filters, etc.


Why do we do this??  Because we want our car to function so we can get from point A to point B. 


The consequence of NOT doing this would greatly hinder our day to day function.


Plus, if we did not MAINTAIN our cars we would blow out or engine or transmission or something like that and it’s not always so easy to just get a new car.


But think about it.


We are given our bodies and we assume that is should just function and that it will alert us when something is wrong.


Well I am going to tell you that by then time our bodies alert us that something is wrong – we are usually so late into the phase of dysfunction that the pieces that we need to put back together (remember HUMPTY DUMPTY) is SO MUCH that it can be overwhelming ---- and many just give up and assume that THIS IS THE WAY IT IS. 


Let me ask you…..when was the last time you had all your “fluid levels” checked?  When was the last time you had your “filters cleaned or replaced”?


Or to be more clear:


When was the last time you had your cortisol and sex hormone levels properly assessed?


When was the last time you REALLY had a full functional lab interpretation done so you can understand all your levels, why they are out of range and what to do about them so they don’t turn into major dysregulation?


When was the last time you checked your own blood sugar to make sure that the levels are where they need to be (and a one time check with your DR is not enough… me….).


When was the last time you really looked at your iron levels, Vitamin D levels, magnesium, zinc and selenium levels?


When was the last time you did a WHOLE FOODS DETOX to thoroughly cleanse your gut and break any sugar/carb addictions you may be having?


When was the last time you looked in to why you can’t sleep instead of defaulting to an Ambien or Tylenol PM or a bottle of wine?


When was the last time you had a FULL THYROID WORK-UP (and the DR doesn’t do this either – they scrimp on the panels they can run on you.)  You need to get a TSH, T4, T3 and both thyroid antibody tests done at the very least!!!  Most DR’s only run 2 of these panels and they miss a lot of dysfunction with that.


What about a C-reactive protein or ANA test for systemic inflammation??


Have you had these checked?  Or are you just assuming that the DR will alert you if something is really wrong?


Well I hate to say it…….but most DR’s will not alert you enough until you are steps away from a full blow disease.  They are not going to give you enough forewarning that you are heading down this path until you are actually DIAGNOSABLE.


Which means……then they can bill for DIABETES or HYPO-THYROID or something that could have been prevented a long while ago.


This does not mean that they suck at their job…..but their job is to TREAT DISEASE and you are not quite there yet. 


They are not in the HEALTHY BUILDING business……they are in the symptom/disease treating business.


So don’t wait for them to give you a clue – take responsibility of your health and learn how to do this.


By balancing your levels (ex: progesterone, DHEA, blood sugar, thyroid, adrenal, gut function, assess for any autoimmune antibodies, etc.) you are learning to MAINTAIN your body – just as you have learned to maintain your car.


But instead we take our bodies for granted and assume that we can beat the crap out of it for years and expect it to function well – especially when we are headed for a major hormonal shift – PERIMENOPAUSE.


So what I am saying is that dealing with PERIMENOPAUSE doesn’t have to be so bad if more of us were on top of everything else that happens with our body over time.


If you have been eating processed foods, drinking sugary drinks, drinking too much alcohol, not sleeping consistently, not exercising, over working, over-stressing, eating crap, going through a divorce or other tough times, etc. then IT IS TIME FOR  A RESET.


1.       Accept that your body has changed.  Accept that you need to operate differently and ACCEPT that what worked 10 years ago most likely is not going to work today.

2.       Get a good cortisol/hormone saliva test done.  It will help assess reasons for fatigue, lack or inability to sleep, mood issues, etc.  It’s also a good baseline to have for further comparison as you begin your healing and health building protocol.

3.       Get a full lab panel drawn and get a good analysis of it so you can have more control over how your body is slowly malfunctioning and what you can do about it.

4.       Do a whole foods detox program for at least 21 days.

5.       Start weight training 2-3 times per week and do cardio 2-3x per week (and I mean cardio that is a bit more vigorous than walking).

6.       Practice an ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE DAILY.  Find something to be grateful for….happy for…..thankful for….....90% of this battle will begin with your attitude.

7.       And don’t worry about being “selfish” instead you are being “SELF-FULL”.  After all….most women have been giving to their families for YEARS and now it’s TIME FOR YOU.

If you would like more information on how to go about doing a RESET and starting a perimenopausal treatment feel free to message me on FACEBOOK at THINK Holistic Fitness or send me an email at

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